which one are you?
Saturday, April 26, 2008
there are two different ways to approach a prospect:
be the pursuer or be the pursued.
it's typical to say that guys are/should be the pursuer to tag onto the "chivalry" aspect of relationships, true. and it's also typical to say that the ladies are to be the pursued. in few cases, ladies get ahead of the game and guys kick back in which i would like to say that "the tables are turned". yes, in these few cases, ladies become the pursuers and the guys become the pursued. i'm not too sure if this is a good thing because it can be for the guys, but also it gives ladies a taste of what the guys have to go through when they find a special lady that shines brighter than the rest.
may i open up to you, my fellow realtalk-ers? because i'm going to anyways. many times i've found myself to be the pursuer and i'm not too sure why, but i can list a few reasons that i think can best answer that question. i have hung around older friends and guy friends to grasp onto the "go get it" mentality. when i see something i like or want, i'll do my best to get it. don't get me wrong, i didn't mean "i get whatever i want" because that's not the case. so please don't mistake me for having that type of idea about myself.
i've met a guy who has sparked my interest. i just recently went on a date with him. he's a nice guy and there's no "BUT" to go along to that tagline. i want to get to know him more and go on another date. i was told to let the guy be the pursuer this time because my aggressiveness needs to take a back seat and i deserve to be pursued. this, my friends, is where it's difficult. i'm interested in this guy but he needs to step his game up and whisper into my ear and tell me sweet nothings already. hahaha, yes, i don't play. and you all know that.
so another question is, should i just let this MVP on my team play however he feels like or coach him? hahaha you like that?
btw, i miss you guys.
3 comments:
Which one am i?.. I would think in recent cases, im the pursuer [dru's right, pursue is a weird word..] rather than being pursued. I think its due to the fact that I have no choice BUT to pursue, cause girls around here are attention whores [haha, yeah i said it]. BUT i wouldn't mind at all being pursued. holler.
Sometimes it's hard for each person to understand if they are the pursuer or being pursued. So i think to PURSUE HIM wouldn't hurt. You like the guy, but he's not stepping his game up, so HINT to him. Show him you are interested and would like to see what he has to offer. How much you hint to him is up to you tho.. Just don't come on too strong, cause that will let him know the hes got control of the ball. Everything in moderations :)
If things don't work out, then you did what you could, and hes an idiot for missing out on a good thing. You know what little things you can do to show him you want to see more of him. Its embedded in your subconscious, which i hate cause i want that!
If that doesn't work, and youre fed up, tell him straight up "look Dude, I like you. and i want to see you more.. If you don't feel the same, tell me now so i can get on with my life." its okay to be blunt :) if he doesn't catch the hints after awhile.
cheers! miss ya too!
[marc]
Who doesn't love a little attention.. ?? :) At some point in one's life, they should probably do both.
Anyhoooowww... been a while since you posted this so I'm sure there's something somewhat new about this "prospect" of yours.. ahem ahem. I know it's hard for you to sit back and wait for something to happen. But I have a feeling about this one.. and you SHOULD wait it out.. just to have something different for once. You may be able to breathe a little better and focus on other things.. because you do deserve the "pursuing".
just some quick commentary because i'm at work..
i would LOVE to be pursued.
it's your choice, dear. you'll know when you want to be the pursuer or the pursued.
ps
"pursue" and all of the other forms of it are weird words